Survey question Gay, Straight, Bi or Other?

[symempathy]

I'm masculine, versatile, exclusively gay and very into penectomy. For me, wanting to be dickless has no causal link with how masculine or feminine I want to be, what sexual positions I enjoy, what role playing scenarios I like or who I like to have sex with. If I ever lose my dick, I know it will have consequences for some categories, but it will not change the facts that I am both masculine and gay. I am really into the idea of butch guys without cocks.

You only want penectomy, correct? And you are into men without penis, aren't you? Then can you accept female-to-male men who still retain their vagina?

[slickotter]

You only want penectomy, correct? And you are into men without penis, aren't you? Then can you accept female-to-male men who still retain their vagina?

That's right, only penectomy and I am also into men without a penis. I would have no problem accepting an FTM individual with a vagina as long as he was also masculine. There's no judgment involved here, but I'm a masculine guy who's into masculine guys, especially masculine guys without dicks. I've known FTM guys who fit that bill, but I've never had the luck to meet someone like that who was a good match for me.

There is a really hot video on xtube of what appears to be an FTM dude with a hairy and very masculine torso masturbating with his vagina. Whether it's real or not, I get hard even thinking about it.

[symempathy]

That's right, only penectomy and I am also into men without a penis. I would have no problem accepting an FTM individual with a vagina as long as he was also masculine. There's no judgment involved here, but I'm a masculine guy who's into masculine guys, especially masculine guys without dicks. I've known FTM guys who fit that bill, but I've never had the luck to meet someone like that who was a good match for me.

There is a really hot video on xtube of what appears to be an FTM dude with a hairy and very masculine torso masturbating with his vagina. Whether it's real or not, I get hard even thinking about it.

Men like you give me hope because I want a vagina (without a clitoris because I don't like my penis, either) and I'm a biological male. I know. That is freaky, isn't it?

However, my gender expression is certainly the key that motivate me to have that decision. I'm not a sissy, but I can't deny the fact I'm not as masculine as other guys. I'm not girly, but I'm a little feminine, and I can't help it. Only people to whom I have an intimate conversation can see my soft side. Otherwise, they just see a normal guy like any other ones.

I'm curious and nonjudgmental, so if you don't mind I have a question. From your post, you seem to have a strong sexual side. Have you ever been in love with a man who fits your description or is it merely about sex?

[slickotter]

I'm not sure I understand your question, but here goes: I've never been "in love" with a dickless guy regardless of how he came to be that way or how his body started out. Then again, I've never had sex with one either. Despite years of looking, I've never found one who seemed for real and close enough to me to make a meeting practical.

I have a very strong sexual side, but I've certainly been in love a few times with very different guys. Guess the best I can do is say that we all have some ideal type or set of types that get us going sexually. Then we all have criteria (stated or unstated) for what makes someone a decent candidate for being in loving relationships. Some people are lucky and find someone who checks all the boxes in both categories, but more often life's a trade-off.

[symempathy]

I'm not sure I understand your question, but here goes: I've never been "in love" with a dickless guy regardless of how he came to be that way or how his body started out. Then again, I've never had sex with one either. Despite years of looking, I've never found one who seemed for real and close enough to me to make a meeting practical.

I have a very strong sexual side, but I've certainly been in love a few times with very different guys. Guess the best I can do is say that we all have some ideal type or set of types that get us going sexually. Then we all have criteria (stated or unstated) for what makes someone a decent candidate for being in loving relationships. Some people are lucky and find someone who checks all the boxes in both categories, but more often life's a trade-off.

I'm sorry that my question is vague. I simply want to know whether you have ever been in love.

The reason I ask is that I want to know if I have a chance to be loved by a man. I won't stop at penectomy and orchidectomy. I want to have a similar organ that biological females have. I'm still a male, and I'm happy with that. I simply don't like my penis. Whether or not I can find a guy who can accept and love me, I will go to the path I have chosen. I merely want to be mentally prepared for the possibility that I might not find a guy who is open-minded enough to accept me or be attracted to me.

After all, it is not easy even for gay men without eunuch-related issues to find love, is it?

[slickotter]

I've definitely been in love, but I'm no expert on the subject. Not really sure anyone is. The only recipe I know involves one part openness, one part patience and three parts luck. The luck part can take a while.

There are so many different people out there with such varied personalities, looks, tastes, fetishes, dreams and lifestyles that the number of possible viable combinations boggles the mind. I can't say there's someone out there for everyone, but I can say that if you're persistently hopeful and have reasonable expectations, the long-run chances seem to be pretty decent.

There are definitely guys out there who are open-minded enough.

I'm sorry that my question is vague. I simply want to know whether you have ever been in love.

The reason I ask is that I want to know if I have a chance to be loved by a man. I won't stop at penectomy and orchidectomy. I want to have a similar organ that biological females have. I'm still a male, and I'm happy with that. I simply don't like my penis. Whether or not I can find a guy who can accept and love me, I will go to the path I have chosen. I merely want to be mentally prepared for the possibility that I might not find a guy who is open-minded enough to accept me or be attracted to me.

After all, it is not easy even for gay men without eunuch-related issues to find love, is it?

[symempathy]

I've definitely been in love, but I'm no expert on the subject. Not really sure anyone is. The only recipe I know involves one part openness, one part patience and three parts luck. The luck part can take a while.

There are so many different people out there with such varied personalities, looks, tastes, fetishes, dreams and lifestyles that the number of possible viable combinations boggles the mind. I can't say there's someone out there for everyone, but I can say that if you're persistently hopeful and have reasonable expectations, the long-run chances seem to be pretty decent.

There are definitely guys out there who are open-minded enough.

Thank you for your honest answer.
Sorry if you're annoyed by what I ask. I don't mean to be prejudicing or close-minded. I had to keep asking because it seemed like the sex aspect was all over the place in this forum. I like sex, too, but I can't have it without its companion: emotion.

I acknowledge what you say for a long time, but I can feel more hope because of what you said. If 100% guys (women too) want me simply because I have a strange physical characteristic (in my case, a vagina), I will be very upset. I would feel like my existence in this world is solely for sexually pleasing other people.

However, as long as there is someone out there who can accept and love me for who I am rather than what I am, I'm content.

[smoothgrooves78]

Other

Although I would love to be dickless, am cultivating my own boobs, enjoy women's clothing and occasional dalliances with m2f transsexuals, I'd say I was straight enough Masculinity just doesn't 'do' it for me...

[punkypink]

I've definitely been in love, but I'm no expert on the subject. Not really sure anyone is. The only recipe I know involves one part openness, one part patience and three parts luck. The luck part can take a while.

There are so many different people out there with such varied personalities, looks, tastes, fetishes, dreams and lifestyles that the number of possible viable combinations boggles the mind. I can't say there's someone out there for everyone, but I can say that if you're persistently hopeful and have reasonable expectations, the long-run chances seem to be pretty decent.

There are definitely guys out there who are open-minded enough.

Buck Angel.

I can tell you though, just as it isn't easy being a lesbian trans girl with a cock, it also isn't easy being a gay trans man with a vagina. Most gay AND trans people don't realise they're gay and trans because they like the "right" gender that society says someone of their physical sex should like.

If you think you got a long wait to meet a gay trans person, they have an even longer wait to be accepted by the gay community. I know that 90% or more lesbians in general discriminate against me passively. What few who don't can be put under severe community abuse for daring to date someone who has a penis(my ex-gf got called a cocksucker by the rest of the lesbian community. She is lesbian herself), and decide that they're better off just not dating a gay trans person.

Harsh realities, but I'm distancing myself from the LGBT community because really, they've done me more harm than good.

[foruse43]

I'm gay, but leaning towards feminization and castration and penectomy would be a natural step in that process. But I'm not going to ever be feminized on my own, need a man who will make it happen.

[Cainanite]

Well, this is an old thread, back from the dead.

I don't think I ever answered this one. I might as well now.

I come in under "Other".

I am asexual, meaning I don't need or seek sex with either gender. However when it comes to physical contact or romance (something I see as separate from sex) then I guess I am bisexual.

Sharing a hug or massage, sharing an intimate dinner, and a snuggle on the couch with a good movie. The person I share that with could be either sex, and I'd enjoy it. I don't find I am into the overly feminine physique or the overly masculine physique. I can appreciate both, but care for neither.

I have zero contact with the LGBT community, other than a few websites I experimented with (never got past more than a couple of posts). Being as I am, I was called a wannabe pretty quickly. What depressed me, was the community's insistence that I label myself clearly into one of their pre-determined boxes. Seems there is no box for an asexual-bisexual man.

As I don't fit into any standard they recognize, I didn't feel welcome. The only place I've found acceptance for that is here on the EA.

If we use the standard of who I have had sex with in my life, then it has only been women. Therefore I'm straight... right?

I often fantasize about men, therefore I'm gay... right?

Have I ever cross dressed? ... Well, yes once, but it was kinda a joke thing. I don't cross dress regularly, and I don't own women's clothes. So I'm not Trans... right?

Do I want to be a woman? No. Nor do I dream about being the other sex.

I don't desire to have a penis shoved in me, or shove my penis in anyone else, at least not in reality. Although I can and do fantasize about both options. My fantasy life, and my physical life are pretty different things. Though I can imagine what it could be like, and enjoy the thought experiment, I have no need to try it for real. Kinda like I can enjoy the dream of skydiving, but I have no desire to actually put on a parachute and jump out of a perfectly good airplane.

Of the questions usually asked, I don't answer in quite the right way to pigeon hole me. For the LGBT community, I am a conundrum, and therefore, a faker.

So what am I? I have no clue.

I'll stick with asexual-bisexual. It is a conundrum, but it is who I am.

[moi621]

Buck Angel.

I can tell you though, just as it isn't easy being a lesbian trans girl with a cock, it also isn't easy being a gay trans man with a vagina. Most gay AND trans people don't realise they're gay and trans because they like the "right" gender that society says someone of their physical sex should like.

If you think you got a long wait to meet a gay trans person, they have an even longer wait to be accepted by the gay community. I know that 90% or more lesbians in general discriminate against me passively. What few who don't can be put under severe community abuse for daring to date someone who has a penis(my ex-gf got called a cocksucker by the rest of the lesbian community. She is lesbian herself), and decide that they're better off just not dating a gay trans person.

Harsh realities, but I'm distancing myself from the LGBT community because really, they've done me more harm than good.

The social pressure of it all. Really sad. One always expects a discriminated against community to be the most tolerant but seldom it seems so. Reminds me of the feminist movement and the lack of heterosexual females in the leadership. Resulting in . . . that infamous bicycle saying, + , + . Females can be such bitches. Sure males can be pricks but, that sort of action does not endure nearly as long as the female/bitch actions as a pack.

Back in the 70's we were taught in Sex Ed that most would be bisexual if social pressure did not force the declarative.

Moi
Renegade and outcast of any social approval.
BTW, my reality is I like woman. I do! I do! I like to watch them. I like their scent. I like the feminine angle on life. It has been so long though, so very, very long I believe I qualify as a "born again virgin". I do not fore see an improvement. "reality sucks" is just an expression. Not a physical action
Otherwise , my reality could be harnessed to suck my

[JeffEunuch]

I'm gay. I really enjoy the company of men. I enjoy the company of women as well, but I much prefer sex with men.

I also happen to have a fascination with extreme male mods, including complete emasculation. I'm happy as a eunuch, but think often of having what's left - my dick - removed as well. I don't know why more men, especially gay men not interested in reproduction, don't have their dangly bits removed.

[dicklessdave]

The answer why you may want to keep your balls is to stay Masculine and Horny without using Hormone Replacements. This is the ultimate form of chastity for life without the need for a cage or key holder.

[genderless]

I could live without either my balls or dick. Not sure what that makes me, maybe just non sexual.