Menopause didn’t help matters. If anything, all that I wanted most of the time was to cuddle next to my husband in bed but he always had other ideas. “Honestly, I would prefer that I wasn’t always horny”, he would say. “If I wasn’t, I wouldn’t miss it and I would no longer be sexually frustrated as I am now”, he would tell me.

With a willing partner, we agreed that he would start taking medication to reduce his sex drive. For me, the results have been fabulous. No more erections poking me every night. I can sleep with him throughout the night and feel his limp penis resting underneath my thigh or let him hold my breasts without worrying about him getting aroused.

Best of all, I am the one who initiates sex. I no longer have to try to get into the mood whenever he wants it but rather when I feel like it. Also, the sex has became more enjoyable for me now, because I know that my husband’s sex drive is controlled by me, to be used when I want sex, not him.

Where before sex would often be unpleasant for me due to vaginal dryness, I’ve now found myself quickly becoming very wet whenever I make love. Also, I can go to sleep after having sex without the mess that he always made before he took the medication, when he soaked me and the bedding with his ejaculate.

Now I’m thinking about the future. How long can he safely take this medication? It seems to me that unless some pharmaceutical company can develop a safe drug specifically to control male libido over the long term that eventually the next step is for him to be physically castrated.

The procedure seems to be so simple. It’s just a matter of the doctor making a small incision or two in the scrotum and removing the testes. Why is this a big deal for most male physicians?

Hopefully, by the time that my husband and I are ready to make this move, and with more female doctors entering the medical profession, the procedure will be more acceptable and available to couples like us for our motives, under proper medical supervision. I’m looking forward to it and I bet that other women are too. In the meantime, we can hope.